Hi :) I`m looking at different options for myself. I had a relationship with an older man when I was younger. He then moved away 2 years ago and I`ve dated two girls since. I`m not sure what I want right now, yet have an open mind. I guess you could say I`m still learning what I like. Also, I`m just looking for conversation, good friends and a date for coffee to start.

I find I`m drawn to older men in their 50`s and 60`s. Maybe it`s cause they tend to be confident, calm, decisive and just seem to know how to put my anxieties and insecurities at ease. Maybe it`s also that I`m attracted to my opposite - I`m shorter and smaller with no body hair but older men i`m drawn to tend to be taller and stocky with (sometimes lots of) body hair. Is it just me or can others relate?

I`ve also noticed that older men are so much more comfortable and natural at giving compliments. Is that just confidence and assertiveness? Either way, I think it`s a nice quality (who doesn`t like feeling good about themselves? lol).

I`m a libra and took the Meyers Briggs personality test recently and found it really interesting. I`m INFJ (borderline between E and I) and this is what I`ve discovered about my personality type:

"As an INFJ, you take almost nothing at face value, and this tendency extends to your relationships. You are a ceaselessly analytical individual who thrives in relationships where your perceptions are constantly being challenged and your world views are consistently being rearranged. To an INFJ, a satisfying relationship is one that offers practical stability but mental exploration and adventure. The intellectual realm is where the INFJ naturally shines. When you pair yourself up with a partner who brings this side out of you, you thrive.

You take a while to get physical. Before you get it on with someone you want to trust them, understand them, and connect with them on a core level. You aim to please in the bedroom, making sure your partner is eternally comfortable and happy around you. The best sex is intimate, passionate sex between two people who connect on a mental - borderline spiritual - level. Give you that and you`re a firecracker in the bedroom."

i also took my bdsm test recently and found the results so interesting:

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
95% Submissive
82% Exhibitionist
79% Primal (Prey)
78% Boy/Girl
78% Brat
69% Ageplayer
58% Vanilla
53% Experimentalist
46% Non-monagamist
48% Voyeur
48% Slave
46% Pet
40% Rope Bunny
30% Switch
25% Masochist
25% Degradee
25% Rigger
18% Degrader
4% Sadist
2% Dominant
1% Master/Mistress
1% Primal (Hunter)
1% Brat tamer
1% Daddy/Mommy
1% Owner